“Maybe being powerful means to be fragile.”
-Ai Weiwei, Chinese Artist and Activist
BBC radio interview following his 2011 detention
“Life is beautiful and life is brutal. Life is brutiful.”
Below is an excerpt and link to a great NYT’s article on trauma. I frequently hear clients question why they are not “over” traumatic experiences. Whether an end of a relationship, death of a loved one or some other traumatic experience, those with the goal of getting “over” it are most often the ones who find themselves stuck; sometimes unknowingly. Although counterintuitive, sometimes resisting the urge to fight against unpleasant feelings is the healthiest way to find peace with them.
The willingness to face traumas — be they large, small, primitive or fresh — is the key to healing from them. They may never disappear in the way we think they should, but maybe they don’t need to. Trauma is an ineradicable aspect of life. We are human as a result of it, not in spite of it.
Here’s an insightful short interview with 76 year old artist Bobby Jaber about his artistic philosophy. The excerpted quote below touches on a struggle I hear from many of my clients about process and perfection. Enjoy.
“It’s not what you start with or what you end up with. It’s what lies between the beginning and the end; that’s the meaning of the whole act of creation. You never finish anything perfectly, you just reach the point to where this is as far as you want to take it.”
Donna and Leslie are back in this great example of what you don’t want counseling to do to you.
This is a great short film. While geared towards business, the ideas are applicable to any type of system. Even families. Check it out. It’s fun and informative.
It’s OK to admit that the work required to change terrifies you. Just quit insisting that something else is stopping you.