Attachment Style Resources

Want to know more about your attachment style?

This survey can help provide some clarity on where you fall on the attachment spectrum. Keep in mind that this is a pretty simple survey and most people self assess as falling closer to secure than their relationships may actually reflect.

Like Podcasts?

The Therapist Uncensored Podcast is a one stop shop for science-based discussions to help people grow towards more secure and fulfilling relationships. Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley are both Austin-based clinicians who are doing great work in spreading the word on the importance of understanding attachment.

Here are a couple of recent favorites:

TU59: Dismissing/Avoidant Attachment: Are you cool, or just cut off

TU60: Preoccupation in Relationships – Grow Your Security by Learning the Signs of Anxious Attachment

Prefer to Read?

My favorite expert authors on attachment include:

Stan Tatkin

Wired for Love

Wired for Dating

Amir Lavine & Rachel Heller

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment And How It Can Help you Find – And Keep – Love

Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations For A Lifetime of Love

In addition, Therapist Uncensored did a video:

 

Ready to do more than read about it? Individual counseling or online therapy with a specialist in attachment can help you move from insight to real change.

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Michael Hilgers, M.MFT

I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor working remotely with clients around the world. I believe that everyone has the potential to change; to create new paths, to go in new directions. Life is hard. Counseling can help.

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Michael Hilgers, M.MFT

Michael Hilgers, M.MFT

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Michael Hilgers is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in New Mexico, with a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. With 28+ years of clinical experience and an estimated 20,000+ direct client hours, he specializes in online therapy for high-functioning adults — including entrepreneurs, attorneys, and creative professionals — navigating anxiety, depression, and relationship challenges.

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